(it’s baaack!) SINGLE GIRL ADVICE from ur sis
well well well
we are back.
more advice to the single girls.
& you know it’s been a while, it’s been too long, and I keep thinking of things to write here so here we are! YAY!
Who is the version you may have been trying to convince yourself he is?
What is He *really* like?
That’s right.
Who is he?
See, too often women be out here giving way too much of the “benefit of the doubt”. Doubt is a strong word, I don’t like doubt, so we will call it “good judgment”. Don’t ditch the good judgement, the righteous judgement of reasonable things! 🥳
Don’t go into butterfly 🦋 world because it’s fun without getting REAL, really really REAL. You need to guard your heart 💛 sis! (more on that in a minute!) And I know you may just want to lay across a sofa 🛋️ , reading his messages🤳, hearing his voice ☎️ and feeling like you are on a cruise 🚢🌴☀️ you are so happy, but please sis, please be wise.
He may be a bit reckless 🤠🍷 and you’re trying to tell yourself it’s okay! But you may lack peace and feel all worried underneath that false trust. Often God tries to show us the right way, sometimes He just needs our patience, sometimes it’s a different direction. It’s worth going with God’s option!
Yeah.
Truly it is.
pay attention to what you may be almost settling for.
You might notice things that were never ever on any part of your “list” 📝 of what you dreamt of, really you may realize a cute guy has nothing that was on your list, but guess what? HE IS SO CUTE. 🔥🥵Girls can get real distracted by hotness. But that isn’t the personality trait that is gonna be great when a baby is crying at 2 am and you’re exhausted and he won’t get up to check on her. I mean being handsome is amazing, I love that, but there is MORE!! 💛
Okay, maybe this is a wild one, but don’t put too much pressure on YOU to marry 👰♀️🤵 THIS guy!
HERE is what I mean, sometimes in Christian culture you can feel like the guy you date needs to be the guy you see yourself marrying because that is intentional or something. If you change your mind, that is okay! Thinking that a guy you may want to date also IS your husband can put a lot of pressure on you. Maybe the Lord has shown you who it is though, and that is great! But I just want to remind you to go slow, relax a little, be wise! Don’t be afraid of being gentle with it. It’s just talking, or dating or being boyfriend and girlfriend, or even starting as friends, you haven’t vowed to him yet! Take it easy! 💛
Take note of your state of mind/emotions
Some people can have influence on your state of calm, and you could feel delighted and happy but also not still. Do you have peace about a guy? Sometimes we can feel excitement and adventure and it can make you feel a little EEK! That’s often normal, but also just note if you feel more stressed, super worried or over all just not at ease. ESPECIALLY don’t neglect to notice these things when it’s just beginning, or you even just have a crush. Sometimes an indicator light goes off in a car before there is a problem, you know, like a “check engine” light? 💡 If you have good indication don’t ignore it in dating!
But wait! What do you do with indications? What do you do when you “think” you aren’t feeling at ease, or are feeling stressed JUST thinking about him asking you out, and you’re not sure why? I recommend personally going to God and trusted people who you love, who also love you. Seek GOOD counsel from Jesus and wise counsel from people who know Him and love you! Ask God to show you and help you with next steps, but just remember God may give you a verse that reminds you to head in a different direction 🧭, and you may be like “hey I thought HE WAS SO CUTEEE” but if you have a lot of clarity to not date a guy, consider that there may be reasons God has that you haven’t yet seen.
Which brings me to this…
Trust God KNOWS
God knows who is best for you.
Yup.
He knows exactly what you need and who you need and all that. He knows you better than anyone else. He knows what would make you feel upset, He knows what you’ve been dealing with in the last two hours. He knows what makes you cry, what makes you elated, what kind of birthday cake you want. All. Of. That. And more. He can bless you with an amazing husband according to His will, but I want to ask you, do you trust God? Are you willing to settle into His will instead of your own? It’s better there.
And you might wonder how it is, but it simply is best to always follow Jesus. Imagine if David hadn’t followed God I’m so many circumstances? Look what happened when David didn’t do what he should have. We don’t have to live worried, there is so much grace, but I just want to write to the girl it there reading this who feels like settling when SHE KNOWS better, please seek the Lord and Godly wisdom sis. This is more than a cute guy who will kiss you and give you butterflies. This is the person you could spend all your days on earth with, standing by their side. It’s weighted like that. Try not to flip flop🩴 between thinking it’s so casual you can settle and it’s so valuable that you need to be wise. Choose the second.
God also will know what you may not have seen yet. He may know this boy be so wild and a party boy but you aren’t aware yet, and you didn’t even want that. So if things slow down, or if they’re put on pause and you feel like it’s out of your control DON’T worry. Seek the Lord FIRST and know He will bring you what you desire in your heart!
BE EXCITED FOR THE FUTURE
that’s right!
BE EXCITED SIS!
There are great days to come.
Yes! Even if you were just dumped yesterday!
Yes! Even if the guy you liked just followed 12 single girls on insta
Yes! Even if you have been a miserable single pringle for two weeks.
There is hope in the future!
How? Why?
Because God is in it.
BTW
HIP HIP HOORAY for all of the future weddings that will arrive in all of your lives according to the will of God!
I am so excited for the single girls reading this to one day be in white, walking down an aisle to a precious song, or violin quartet or something, to a gorgeous man in a tux. AHH!
Okay ladies.
I hope this chat really left you feeling encouraged and MOTIVATED to seek a solid relationship from the Lord.
I love you guys.
Thanks for being here!
XX,
thewildflowers.